Dating a mother of small children can be a daunting, and at times awkward adventure. Many young men avoid dating women with children because they consider such women to be too complicated, or because they don’t want to be saddled with unwanted responsibility. This article presents some
advice that could be helpful.
The Children Come First
If you want to have a successful relationship with a mother of small children, you absolutely must come to terms with the idea that the children will be and should be higher on her list of priorities than you. Small children require a phenomenal amount of attention and care, and you can expect your plans to be derailed again and again because they’re sick or fussy or because the babysitter bailed. Be patient and be flexible. You’re better off making loose plans to see each other and then play it by ear than having a set itinerary.
Kids Aren’t Scary
Helping out with the kids is a great way to gain the affection of the mother. Small children are actually pretty easy to deal with – feed them when they’re hungry, change them when they need it, put them to nap when they’re tired. If you don’t know what to do, ask their mother – there’s no shame in being unsure. And remember, storytime is your friend.
Don’t Feel Obligated To Play Daddy
At least in the early phases of the relationship, don’t feel obligated to act like the father. You don’t have to provide financial support and you don’t have to be the disciplinarian. In fact, you’re better off not doing so – leave those realms to the mother. Whatever you do, do not demand that the kids call you Daddy and don’t allow their mother to force that title on you – if they come to that decision on their own, that’s one thing, but don’t try to force it on them.
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